Abusive Relationship?

Does your partner ever…

  • Call you names, insult you or continually criticize you?
  • Act jealous, possessive or as if you can’t be trusted?
  • Try to isolate you from family or friends?
  • Monitor where you go, who you call and who you spend time with?
  • Forbid you from working or going to school?
  • Make all of the decisions?
  • Punish you by withholding affection?
  • Expect you to ask permission for everything?
  • Threaten to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets?
  • Humiliate you in any way?
  • Play mind games that make you feel crazy?
  • Blame you for their bad behavior?
  • Threaten to commit suicide to control you?*
  • If this is a pattern in your relationship, you might be in an abusive relationship. This is common; you are not alone. USF Counseling and Psychological Services is here to help you.

    Here are other resources that you may find beneficial:

    The National DV Hotline: http://www.thehotline.org/

    La Casa de Las Madres (San Francisco): http://www.lacasa.org/

    Legal Assistance:www.baylegal.org

    Local Resources: http://www.sfdistrictattorney.org/index.aspx?page=4

    Further readings:

    Dating violence: A College Campus Concern (Author: Sushana Tamamian)

    Sexual Assault Reporting

    Callisto-College Sexual Assault Reporting

    CALLISTO is a college sexual assault reporting website specifically designed and available for USF students to connect to resources, learn about reporting options, and to create a secure, private record of what happened to them. 


    If you are in the midst of an emergency, please call USF Public Safety at 415-422-2911.

    Medical Care

    If you need immediate medical attention, please visit:
    Trauma Recovery Center / Rape Treatment Center(TRC/RTC)
    San Francisco General Hospital
    2727 Mariposa St., #100
    San Francisco, CA 94110
(415) 437-3011

    On-Campus Free and Confidential Support:

    USF Counseling and Psychological Services(CAPS)
    Gilson Hall, Lower Level
    (415) 422-6352

    University Ministry (ask to speak to a clergy member)
    Toler Hall, Lower Level
    (415) 422-4463

    San Francisco Resources

    San Francisco Women Against Rape: (415) 647-7273 or sfwar.org

    Community United Against Violence (CUAV) - (415) 333-4357 Serves lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning communities

    Domestic Violence - Riley's Center Crisis Line - (415) 255-0165 Advocates available for victims of domestic violence

    La Casa de las Madres - Adults – (877) 503-1850;
    Teens – (877) 923-0700
    Counseling, information, resources, and referrals for survivors of domestic violence

    Rape Treatment Center - (415) 437-3000
    Those who have suffered from trauma, violence, and loss

    Suicide Prevention - (415) 781-0500 Helping people who are having suicidal thoughts

    WOMAN, Inc. - (415) 864-4722
    Serving battered women in San Francisco and the larger Bay Area

    24-Hour Crisis Lines

    National Domestic Violence Hotline - (800) 799-SAFE
    Advocates available for victims of domestic violence

    National Sexual Assault Hotline - (800) 656-HOPE
    Advocates available for victims of sexual assault

    Victim of Crime Resource Center - (800) 842-8467
    McGeorge law students provide resource and referral information to victims and their families, victim service providers, and other victim advocates.

    Youth Crisis Line - (800) 843-5200
    Youth needing assistance or in crisis situations

    Digital Abuse


    Domestic/Dating/Intimate Partner Violence

    Abused Women's Services, Marin

    (415) 924-6616 (crisis)
    (415) 924-3456 (Spanish crisis line)

    (415) 457-2464 (main office)

    (415) 457-2421 (TTY)

    Center for Disease Control and Prevention: Intimate Partner Violence

    Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse(CORA), San Mateo
    Languages: English and Spanish
    (800) 300-1080 or (650) 312-8515 (crisis)

    (650) 259-1855 (legal services line for victims only)
(650) 652-0800 (office)

    Languages: South Asian languages
    (800) 215-7308 (help-line message machine will return calls in 24 hours)

    (510) 444-6068 (office)

    National Institute of Justice: Intimate Partner Violence

    Office for Victims of Crime
    Domestic and Family Violence

    A Safe Place, Oakland
(510) 536-7233 (crisis)
(510) 986-8600 (office)

    Shalom Bayit
    Counseling for Jewish Women
(866) SHALOM-7 (help-line toll free)
(510) 451-8874 (office)

    STAND! against Domestic Violence, Concord
(925) 676-2845 (office)
(888) 215-5555 (crisis)

    Victim of Crime Resource Center
    (800) 842-8467

    Health Services

    HealthRight 360
    558 Clayton St.
    San Francisco, CA 94117
    (415) 746-1950

    Lyon Martin Health Services
    Provides health care to women, lesbians, and transgender people
    1748 Market St, Suite 201
    San Francisco, CA 94102
    (415) 565-7667

    San Francisco City Clinic
    356 7th St.
    San Francisco, CA 94103
    (415) 487-5500

    San Francisco Free Clinic
    4900 California St.
    (Cross street 11th Ave.)
    San Francisco, CA 94118
    (415) 750-9894

    Trauma Recovery Center / Rape Treatment Center(TRC/RTC)
    San Francisco General Hospital
    2727 Mariposa St. #100
    San Francisco, CA 94110
(415) 437-3011


    Women's Community Clinic
    1833 Fillmore St, 3rd Floor
    San Francisco, CA 94115
    (415) 379-7800

    Law Enforcement

    San Francisco Police Department
    Emergency: 911
    Non-Emergency: (415) 553-0123

    Note: When calling 911 on a cellular phone near a highway, the call is connected to The California Highway Patrol (CHP) dispatch center. In other areas in San Francisco, the call will connect directly to SF dispatch. You can also dial directly to SF dispatch: (415) 553-8090

    Legal Help

    Cooperative Restraining Order Clinic(CROC)

    (415) 864-1790 (office)

    (415) 252-2844 (intake line)

    US Department of Justice, Office of Violence against Women

    US Department of Justice, Defending Childhood

    U.S. Department of Education, Office for Civil Rights
(regional office)
    50 Beale St., Suite 7200

    San Francisco, CA 94105

    (415) 486-5555
    (877) 521-2172

    U.S. Department of Education, Office for Civil Rights
(national office)
    (800) 872-5327

    Victim Services Division(SF DA’s Office)
    850 Bryant St. #320
    San Francisco, CA 94103

    (415) 553-9044
Monday-Friday 8 a.m. – 5 p.m. (call for available intake times)


    Community United Against Violence(CUAV)
    427 South Van Ness Ave.
    San Francisco, CA 94103

    (415) 333-4357 (safety line)
    (415) 777-5500 (office
    Monday-Friday 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.

    Male Survivors

    Male Survivor

    Sexual Assault / Rape

    Bay Area Women Against Rape(BAYWAR)
    470 27th St.
    Oakland, CA 94612
(510) 845-7273 (24-hour crisis line)
    (510) 430-1298 (office
    Monday-Friday 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.

    California Coalition Against Sexual Assault(CALCASA)
    1215 K. St., Suite 1850

    Sacramento, CA 95814

    (916) 446-2520

    Rape Abuse & Incest National Network(RAINN)
    (800) 656-HOPE (4673)

    San Francisco Women Against Rape(SFWAR)
    3543 18th St. #7
    San Francisco, CA 94110
(415) 647-7273 (24-hour hotline)
    (415) 861-2024 (office)
Monday-Friday 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.

    Trauma Recovery Center / Rape Treatment Center(TRC/RTC)
    San Francisco General Hospital
    2727 Mariposa St., #100
    San Francisco, CA 94110
(415) 437-3011


    Asian Women's Shelter
    Languages: multiple Asian languages spoken
(415) 751-0880 (crisis)
    (877) 751-0880 (crisis)

    (415) 751-7110 (office)

    La Casa de las Madres
    Languages: Spanish and English
(415) 503-0500 (office)
(877) 503-1850 (crisis)
(877) 923-0700 (teen line)

    Riley Center and Emergency Shelter

    (415) 255-0165 (crisis)
(415) 552-2943 (office)


(866) 331-9474
    text "loveis" to 22522

    Stalking Resource Center

    Street Harassment

    Cards Against Harassment

    Hollaback!(San Francisco)

    Stop Street Harassment(San Francisco)
    (571) 449-7326

    Other Support Organizations

    A Call To Men

    INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence

    Men Can Stop Rape

    My Strength

    Office on Women's Health