Dating Violence: A College Campus Concern

By Sushana Tamamian, MA

Dating violence, also known as intimate partner violence (IPV), is a common and pervasive problem on college campuses. Approximately 1 in 3 women, 1 in 10 men, and 1 in 2 transgender individuals are victims of dating violence.1, 2 According to a United States Department of Justice report, women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of IPV of any other demographic in the United States. Another cause for concern, about one third of college students polled reported that they had physically assaulted someone they had dated in the last year.3

What is Dating Violence?

Dating violence or IPV can take many forms such as:

Physical abuse: The intentional use of force to inflict physical harm and/or to induce fear in a dating partner. Physical abuse can include shoving, hitting, slapping, pushing, spitting, pinching, restraining, choking, kicking, shaking, grabbing, burning, using weapons against, or throwing objects at a dating partner.

Psychological/Verbal/Emotional abuse: Any actions intended to break-down or harm a dating partner’s emotional and psychological wellbeing.  Behaviors can include threats, insults, criticism, name calling, belittling, ignoring, humiliating, mind games, intimidating, isolating from friends and family, controlling and monitoring whereabouts, or destroying sentimental items belonging to a dating partner.

Sexual abuse: Coercive, forceful, pressuring, or manipulative behaviors that can result in a dating partner engaging in sexual activities without complete consent. Sexual abuse can include “guilting” a dating partner to have sex, forcing them to engage in particular sex acts they find offensive, pressuring them to have sex when they don’t want to or when they cannot consent (e.g., when they are asleep, when they are exhausted, when others are present, or when they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol). When a dating partner is forced, coerced, or pressured into sexual acts without given consent to the sexual activity, this is considered rape or sexual assault.

Digital abuse: The use of social media networks and/or technology to control, threaten, intimidate, monitor, or harass a dating partner.  This can take the form of stealing or demanding passwords, texting and calling numerous times of the day or night, pressuring a dating partner to send sexual texts or images, or checking incoming and outgoing messages on email, social media, or cell phone. This type of abuse is becoming more common with the extensive use of technology in college communities.4

What are the effects of dating violence?

Regardless of race, gender, and sexual orientation, college student survivors of IPV often experience symptoms of depression, anxiety, and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD).5 They are more likely to engage in binge drinking, may be at greater risk for subsequent abusive relationships and sexual assaults, have higher rates of sexually transmitted infections, and may be at risk for suicide.6

What can I do if I am experiencing dating violence?

If the above descriptions sound familiar or seem to characterize your current dating relationship, it is likely that you are experiencing dating violence. You may want to consider:

Abuse is not part of a healthy relationship: The first step is admitting to yourself that abuse is taking place in your relationship. This is not always easy to do, but it is important to understand that no one deserves to be in a harmful relationship, you are not alone, and help is available.

Reach out to the campus counseling center, CAPS: USF has professional, free, and confidential counseling services available to registered students. Counselors are available to discuss these situations in more depth or may provide you with a referral to other helpful community resources.

Call Public Safety: Campus police and campus judicial programs are available to help you if you are interested in reporting the abuse and/or starting the sanction process for on-campus violations.

Take further legal action: Other legal recourse is available for your protection, such as: reporting to off-campus police, obtaining protective/restraining orders, and criminal prosecution.

Receive additional support: Research indicates that getting more social support is one of the best ways survivors can diminish the harmful effects of dating violence.7

Resources:

National DV Hotline

  • Hotline  1 (800) 799-SAFE
  • TDD hotline 1 (800) 787-3224

Feminist Majority Foundation

San Francisco Women Against Rape (SFWAR)

  • confidential crisis phone line (415) 647-7273

W.O.M.A.N Inc.

  • Toll free support phone line (415) 864-4722
  • Linea de apoyo gratuita (877) 384-3578

References:

  1. http://www.survivorproject.org/defbarresp.html
  2. CDC fact sheet (2012) http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/schoolviolence_factsheet-a.pdf
  3. Break the Cycle: Engaging, Educating and Empowering Youth to Live Free from Domestic and Dating Violence, Annual report (2005)
  4. www.loveisrespect.org
  5. Varia, S. (2006). Dating violence among adolescents. Washington, DC: Advocates for Youth.
  6. Harvard School of Public Health (2001). Dating violence against adolescent girls linked with pregnancy, suicide, and other health risk behaviors
  7. Richards, T. N., Branch, K. A., & Ray, K. (2014). The impact of parental and peer social support on dating violence perpetration and victimization among female adolescents: A longitudinal study. Violence and Victims, 29(2), 317-331. doi:10.1891/0886-6708.VV-D-12-00141R1

Sexual Assault Reporting

Callisto-College Sexual Assault Reporting

CALLISTO is a college sexual assault reporting website specifically designed and available for USF students to connect to resources, learn about reporting options, and to create a secure, private record of what happened to them. 

Emergency

If you are in the midst of an emergency, please call USF Public Safety at 415-422-2911.

Medical Care

If you need immediate medical attention, please visit:
Trauma Recovery Center / Rape Treatment Center(TRC/RTC)
San Francisco General Hospital
2727 Mariposa St., #100
San Francisco, CA 94110

(415) 437-3011

www.traumarecoverycenter.org

On-Campus Free and Confidential Support:

USF Counseling and Psychological Services(CAPS)
Gilson Hall, Lower Level
(415) 422-6352

University Ministry (ask to speak to a clergy member)
Toler Hall, Lower Level
(415) 422-4463

San Francisco Resources

San Francisco Women Against Rape: (415) 647-7273 or sfwar.org

Community United Against Violence (CUAV) - (415) 333-4357 Serves lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning communities

Domestic Violence - Riley's Center Crisis Line - (415) 255-0165 Advocates available for victims of domestic violence

La Casa de las Madres - Adults – (877) 503-1850;
Teens – (877) 923-0700
Counseling, information, resources, and referrals for survivors of domestic violence

Rape Treatment Center - (415) 437-3000
Those who have suffered from trauma, violence, and loss

Suicide Prevention - (415) 781-0500 Helping people who are having suicidal thoughts

WOMAN, Inc. - (415) 864-4722
Serving battered women in San Francisco and the larger Bay Area

24-Hour Crisis Lines

National Domestic Violence Hotline - (800) 799-SAFE
Advocates available for victims of domestic violence

National Sexual Assault Hotline - (800) 656-HOPE
Advocates available for victims of sexual assault

Victim of Crime Resource Center - (800) 842-8467
McGeorge law students provide resource and referral information to victims and their families, victim service providers, and other victim advocates.

Youth Crisis Line - (800) 843-5200
Youth needing assistance or in crisis situations

Digital Abuse

ThatsNotCool.com
www.thatsnotcool.com

Domestic/Dating/Intimate Partner Violence

Abused Women's Services, Marin

(415) 924-6616 (crisis)
(415) 924-3456 (Spanish crisis line)

(415) 457-2464 (main office)

(415) 457-2421 (TTY)
www.maws.org



Center for Disease Control and Prevention: Intimate Partner Violence
www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intimatepartnerviolence/index.html

Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse(CORA), San Mateo
Languages: English and Spanish
(800) 300-1080 or (650) 312-8515 (crisis)

(650) 259-1855 (legal services line for victims only)

(650) 652-0800 (office)

www.corasupport.org



Narika
Languages: South Asian languages
(800) 215-7308 (help-line message machine will return calls in 24 hours)

(510) 444-6068 (office)

www.narika.org



National Institute of Justice: Intimate Partner Violence
www.nij.gov/topics/crime/intimate-partner-violence/


Office for Victims of Crime
Domestic and Family Violence
http://ovc.ncjrs.gov/topic.aspx?topicid=27


A Safe Place, Oakland

(510) 536-7233 (crisis)

(510) 986-8600 (office)

www.asafeplacedvs.org



Shalom Bayit
Counseling for Jewish Women

(866) SHALOM-7 (help-line toll free)

(510) 451-8874 (office)

www.shalom-bayit.org



STAND! against Domestic Violence, Concord

(925) 676-2845 (office)

(888) 215-5555 (crisis)

www.standagainstdv.org



Victim of Crime Resource Center
(800) 842-8467
www.1800victims.org/

Health Services

HealthRight 360
558 Clayton St.
San Francisco, CA 94117
(415) 746-1950

Lyon Martin Health Services
Provides health care to women, lesbians, and transgender people
1748 Market St, Suite 201
San Francisco, CA 94102
(415) 565-7667
www.lyon-martin.org 

San Francisco City Clinic
356 7th St.
San Francisco, CA 94103
(415) 487-5500
www.sfcityclinic.org

San Francisco Free Clinic
4900 California St.
(Cross street 11th Ave.)
San Francisco, CA 94118
(415) 750-9894
www.sfccc.org/san-francisco-free-clinic/

Trauma Recovery Center / Rape Treatment Center(TRC/RTC)
San Francisco General Hospital
2727 Mariposa St. #100
San Francisco, CA 94110

(415) 437-3011

www.traumarecoverycenter.org/


Women's Community Clinic
1833 Fillmore St, 3rd Floor
San Francisco, CA 94115
(415) 379-7800
www.womenscommunityclinic.org 

Law Enforcement

San Francisco Police Department
Emergency: 911
Non-Emergency: (415) 553-0123

Note: When calling 911 on a cellular phone near a highway, the call is connected to The California Highway Patrol (CHP) dispatch center. In other areas in San Francisco, the call will connect directly to SF dispatch. You can also dial directly to SF dispatch: (415) 553-8090

Legal Help

Cooperative Restraining Order Clinic(CROC)

(415) 864-1790 (office)

(415) 252-2844 (intake line)



US Department of Justice, Office of Violence against Women
www.ovw.usdoj.gov/


US Department of Justice, Defending Childhood
www.justice.gov/defendingchildhood/


U.S. Department of Education, Office for Civil Rights
(regional office)
50 Beale St., Suite 7200

San Francisco, CA 94105

(415) 486-5555
 TDD
(877) 521-2172


U.S. Department of Education, Office for Civil Rights
(national office)
(800) 872-5327

www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/docs/title-ix-rights-201104.html

Victim Services Division(SF DA’s Office)
850 Bryant St. #320
San Francisco, CA 94103

(415) 553-9044

Monday-Friday 8 a.m. – 5 p.m. (call for available intake times)

www.sfvictimservices.org/


LGBTQIA

Community United Against Violence(CUAV)
427 South Van Ness Ave.
San Francisco, CA 94103

(415) 333-4357 (safety line)
(415) 777-5500 (office
)
Monday-Friday 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.

www.cuav.org

Male Survivors

Male Survivor
www.malesurvivor.org


Sexual Assault / Rape

Bay Area Women Against Rape(BAYWAR)
470 27th St.
Oakland, CA 94612

(510) 845-7273 (24-hour crisis line)
(510) 430-1298 (office
)
Monday-Friday 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.

www.baywar.org

California Coalition Against Sexual Assault(CALCASA)
1215 K. St., Suite 1850

Sacramento, CA 95814

(916) 446-2520

www.calcasa.org

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network(RAINN)
(800) 656-HOPE (4673)
www.rainn.org

San Francisco Women Against Rape(SFWAR)
3543 18th St. #7
San Francisco, CA 94110

(415) 647-7273 (24-hour hotline)
(415) 861-2024 (office)

Monday-Friday 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.

www.sfwar.org

Trauma Recovery Center / Rape Treatment Center(TRC/RTC)
San Francisco General Hospital
2727 Mariposa St., #100
San Francisco, CA 94110

(415) 437-3011

www.traumarecoverycenter.org

Shelters

Asian Women's Shelter
Languages: multiple Asian languages spoken

(415) 751-0880 (crisis)
(877) 751-0880 (crisis)

(415) 751-7110 (office)

www.sfaws.org



La Casa de las Madres
Languages: Spanish and English

(415) 503-0500 (office)

(877) 503-1850 (crisis)

(877) 923-0700 (teen line)

www.lacasa.org



Riley Center and Emergency Shelter

(415) 255-0165 (crisis)

(415) 552-2943 (office)

www.rileycenter.org



Stalking

Loveisrespect

(866) 331-9474
text "loveis" to 22522

www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/what-is-stalking

Stalking Resource Center
www.victimsofcrime.org/our-programs/stalking-resource-center

Street Harassment

Cards Against Harassment
www.cardsagainstharassment.com

Hollaback!(San Francisco)
sanfrancisco@ihollaback.org
sanfrancisco.ihollaback.org

Stop Street Harassment(San Francisco)
(571) 449-7326
www.stopstreetharassment.org

Other Support Organizations

A Call To Men
www.acalltomen.org


INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence
www.incite-national.org


Men Can Stop Rape
www.mencanstoprape.org


My Strength
www.mystrength.org


Office on Women's Health
www.womenshealth.gov/violence-against-women/types-of-violence/index.html